Uncertainty
“Uncertainty” is the one of the least popular places to hang out. Fear of uncertainty is the act of worrying and stressing about an unknown future or about unforeseen events and circumstances that life throws your way. Uncertainty can also result from the fact that you simply do not ask solution focused questions that will help you find the answers you need to move forward with confidence. By taking the time to ask solution focused questions about the uncertainty you are feeling, you can gain the necessary understanding and perspective you need to move forward.
Uncertainty can be because you have limited experience in certain life areas. With limited experience, there is limited perspective, and so you jump to conclusions and make assumptions and generalizations about how life is or should be, and as a result you become uncertain of outcomes that may result if you take action in that direction.Uncertainty grows even more prominent when you lack the knowledge, understanding and resources that would allow you to get a specific job or task done. You simply don’t feel that you have all the answers, and so you become uncertain and hesitant to take action.
At other times you simply just don’t have the necessary support required that would provide you with the certainty you need to move forward. You must therefore gain the necessary experience, knowledge, understanding, resources and support you need in a specific area of your life, and you will then also gain the confidence and certainty required to get the job or task accomplished.
To lessen the effect of uncertainty in day to day life focus on what you can control and not on what you can’t. This may seem like an obvious one but also a hard one to follow. When something happens in your life that is effectively out of your hands, it may lead you to feel out of control. Unfortunately for many of us, negative thoughts can often flood our whole being when faced with situations like these and it can, if we let it, become all consuming. If we do become consumed by our thoughts on one situation, it makes it almost impossible to focus or concentrate on anything else and our rational thought process goes out the window.
Focusing on something within your control rather than the thing that isn’t, generally takes discipline, but it can be achieved. Make the decision to put those thoughts to one side for a while, or allow them to exist at the very back of your mind while focusing on something else that can take your mind off it. Indulging in some exercise, a good book, TV show or deciding what you will be doing with your day are all good ways of giving yourself a mental break. If you find yourself drifting back to those thoughts, don’t indulge them. Push them away and get back to doing or thinking about what you can control. Controlling where your very thoughts take you might feel like mental exercise and takes strength, but it can be done with practice. It is achievable, trust me. I have done it and defeated the fear of uncertainty on my own!
